PEER PRESSURE IS WHEN YOU DO SOMETHING TO IMPRESS OR PLEASE OTHERS THAT YOU NORMALLY WOULDN’T HAVE DONE!
It is normal for young teens to worry about fitting in.
Peers play an important role during adolescence and can influence how an individual thinks and acts.
When our children were little kids, it was easier for us to choose their friends by putting them into play groups and other classes and organizing play dates with the ones we knew and liked.
As they grow older, it is them who decide who they make friends and spend their time with.
And very often we have little control over this.
It is human nature to listen to and learn from each other. Friends too have an influence over each other’s decisions, choices and behaviors.
As long as this influence remains positive it works for the benefit of everyone. But when a teenager is trying to fit in or admire someone who causes stress in your child’s life, for example someone who spends a lot of money or does unacceptable things like shoplifting, partying, drinking, doing drugs or getting into intimate relationships, then it is a red flag for parents.
Teens who experience poor self esteem are more likely to give in to peer pressure. They might feel that the only way to have friends or be accepted is by taking on the behavior and attitudes of the people in a group.
HELPING YOUR TEEN MANAGE PEER PRESSURE
COMPETITION- IT’S PROS & CONS
Competition is everywhere! But is it a good thing? Is it something we should be instilling in our children?
Some people feel exposing kids to competition teaches them real life lessons about winning and losing while others feel that it does more harm than good.
According to Carol Dweck, Stanford psychologist and author of Mindset: The new psychology of success, it is important the competition fosters a growth mindset instead of a fixed mindset.
A fixed mindset is when a child believes he is not good at something and never tries to improve at it. They believe that change is not possible.
According to Dweck, kids with a fixed mindset often feel the need to prove themselves over and over again.
Whereas, if a child develops a growth mindset, believe that they can change, improve and add more skills with time and effort.
They also know that if they do not do well at something, it is not the end of the world. They know that they can learn and improve and most importantly they are willing to try!
Help your child think positively about Competition.
What to do if competition stresses out your kid.
Whether it is a big game, a test, a singing competition or the spelling bee, if the fear of competition is impacting your child, you may want to dig deeper for traces of anxiety and depression.
Give them the moral support they need, provide emotional comfort and encouragement.